Shit bisexuals hear a lot

I'm bisexual. I discovered that about myself a year or two ago now. And since then, I've heard a lot of crap.

- Wow! You can easily find a date then!

Yeah because I'm attracted to every male and female I come across, EVERY single one!!!! No. I'm like many others, I'm attracted to certain personalities and people. Just because they have a pulse doesn't mean I'm attracted to them, geez.

- How can your partner trust you? You could leave them for a man or a woman any time

Just like your partner can trust you if you're a straight/gay/pan/whatever person in a relationship. By being committed. Insane thing, I know.

- So are you half straight and half gay?

No. I'm bisexual. 

- You can't have a preference, you're bi, it's 50/50

That's actually false. You can have a strong preference in women and still be bisexual. Or a strong preference in men, still bi. I'm maybe 70% men 30% women. Still bisexual!

- It's just a phase!

If I have the guts to open up about my sexuality, do not say bullshit like that. I have thought this through for a long time, I've been very confused. This is not a fashion try out. It's not a phase.

- Want to join my girlfriend/boyfriend and I for a threesome?

No. Stop.

- Have you ever been with a man/woman? did you have sex? Then how can you know what you like?

Funnily enough, sexuality isn't always like trying out new food. You don't always need to try it to know if you like or don't like it. Experimenting is perfectly fine, but for some, they just know. And please don't blurt out such things, not everyone is comfortable talking about their sexual experiences.

- Stop trying to be a part of the LGBTQ+ community, you're not welcome here.

Oh please what do you think the b stands for in that? Yes, bisexual, so I am very welcome.

- Just make a choice, gay or straight.

What is there to choose? Bisexuality like many other sexualities aren't a choice to make. I cannot entirely control what I'm attracted to. And even if I could, I wouldn't. I'm bisexual, and that's perfectly fine. We don't need to make a choice.

Is there anything else I need to add? What have you had to hear when people discover your sexuality?

Eurovision 2014

I'm a huge fan of Eurovision. Have been for as long as I remember. Since I first met Sean, it's been a tradition we kind of have a "Eurovision date", because it's the only time a year we can watch the same stuff on telly. And this year was no disappointment.

Denmark hosted it, after last year's victory with Only Teardrops. And of course when it's us hosting it gets a tiny bit weird. Dancing old ladies, scaring children with hard rock, loads of food presents. But it was actually a beautiful show. I loved how they made the flags, so creative.

But let's put that aside and talk about this year's winner. Conchita Wurst. A drag with a huge queen attached to it. I am in love with this woman. And I actually really like the song, which I don't often do for the winners. But I don't think people understand how important this win was.

It's a win for the LGBT community. It's most of Europe's countries showing we support this fabulous queen. It's a fuck you to Russia and other countries with disgusting views on people, totally normal people, who deserves just as many rights and wins as everyone else. Because we're all human. And her sincere happiness and surprise was worth it.

But it also disgusts me how people cannot be happy for someone. If it was anyone else, there would be no questions for the win. Sure some people would be annoyed because it's a thing us Europeans are very passionate about. But we still live in a world where being a different kind of normal is "disgusting", "silly" or "shouldn't be allowed in the public". And to you people, go fuck yourself. Conchita won, a deserved win, so haha on you.

I had a lot of favourites this year. I loved Austria, The Netherlands, Norway, Latvia, Switzerland, Finland and Iceland. Unfortunately Latvia didn't make it past semi finals, which is a shame. But I guess they didn't have a cake to bake! But somehow a song about not being someone's sweet cheesecake made it. I think it was the Robin Thicke look he had.

But all in all, I enjoyed this year's Eurovision. Sean and I celebrated Conchita's win with a plane ticket for setting off our summer together! The 14th of June at 10:10 he'll be on Danish land. And I am beyond excited and I really needed this little boost of happiness.

Who was your favourites this year?